Lessons
Lesson Number One: Relationships turn sour even when they contain certain elements that are essential to any healthy relationship to work. Relationships are very hard to sustain.
Lesson one and half: Chances are that a relationship will deteriorate very quickly if the "essential elements" are not there. (I have done this a couple of times, I can assure you, this is almost a postulate - you can actually write it down. It never fails, it's not even worth giving it a try, unless of course there's something you want to learn from it that can be applied in your life. If you think that that particular relationship is the only way you could possibly learn that one thing about life, then go ahead. Although, I think that's a very selfish reason to be in a relationship because (among other things) breakups do hurt. They hurt like hell and you don't want to put yourself or anybody else through that, right?
Lesson Number Two: You shouldn't start a relationship when your future significant other hasn't yet finished completely his/her previous relationship. Never. Nunca. Jamas. Jamais. Is that clear? Too bad I don't know other languages to (over)emphasize that even more.
Lesson Number Three: A red flag is always a red flag. Don't try to dye it or blind yourself. It's not going to work.Wondering about red flags is a sign that it's possibly red. 90% there. Take that into consideration. Don't forget the meaning of a red flag. It basically tells you to run away. Don't stay. Run as soon as you possibly can.
Lesson Number Four: Trying too hard is a sign that that thing people often talk about when they're talking about Ms. Happiness, last name - Fleeting, which is Mr. Balance is losing the battle. Bottom line is: if the relationship you're in is making you feel like you're in the playground and the seesaw is all to one side, that's definitely a bad sign. Did all that sound confusing? Well, ok. Out of balance relationships ARE bad. Unless you know the relationship you're in is out balance and you don't care. Maybe you even like that for some kind of weird reason.
Lesson Number Five: Breakups hurt. It's not true that it doesn't hurt when you breakup with someone. It does. It hurts a lot. So, only break up when it's inevitable, but do it as soon as you can. The more you stay in a bad relationship, more damage you'll cause everybody.
Lesson one and half: Chances are that a relationship will deteriorate very quickly if the "essential elements" are not there. (I have done this a couple of times, I can assure you, this is almost a postulate - you can actually write it down. It never fails, it's not even worth giving it a try, unless of course there's something you want to learn from it that can be applied in your life. If you think that that particular relationship is the only way you could possibly learn that one thing about life, then go ahead. Although, I think that's a very selfish reason to be in a relationship because (among other things) breakups do hurt. They hurt like hell and you don't want to put yourself or anybody else through that, right?
Lesson Number Two: You shouldn't start a relationship when your future significant other hasn't yet finished completely his/her previous relationship. Never. Nunca. Jamas. Jamais. Is that clear? Too bad I don't know other languages to (over)emphasize that even more.
Lesson Number Three: A red flag is always a red flag. Don't try to dye it or blind yourself. It's not going to work.Wondering about red flags is a sign that it's possibly red. 90% there. Take that into consideration. Don't forget the meaning of a red flag. It basically tells you to run away. Don't stay. Run as soon as you possibly can.
Lesson Number Four: Trying too hard is a sign that that thing people often talk about when they're talking about Ms. Happiness, last name - Fleeting, which is Mr. Balance is losing the battle. Bottom line is: if the relationship you're in is making you feel like you're in the playground and the seesaw is all to one side, that's definitely a bad sign. Did all that sound confusing? Well, ok. Out of balance relationships ARE bad. Unless you know the relationship you're in is out balance and you don't care. Maybe you even like that for some kind of weird reason.
Lesson Number Five: Breakups hurt. It's not true that it doesn't hurt when you breakup with someone. It does. It hurts a lot. So, only break up when it's inevitable, but do it as soon as you can. The more you stay in a bad relationship, more damage you'll cause everybody.
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